You are now "negative" 5 weeks old. 5.25 lbs and 18 inches - the size of a honeydew melon! In a little over a month you will make your arrival, if everything goes to plan.
I've been through so many emotions during the past 8 months. From being scared of the idea of being a dad, to being excited about the possibilities, to being worried for your well being, to being thankful for your existence. I also have a feeling of simply wondering if I'm ready.
Baby Girl, it is important to allow yourself to work through your emotions rather than escaping them. Our brains are wired in interesting ways. If you avoid emotions rather than working through them, you will add unneeded stress to your life, allowing things to build inside of you which can be difficult to ever move past.
I've been through so many emotions during the past 8 months. From being scared of the idea of being a dad, to being excited about the possibilities, to being worried for your well being, to being thankful for your existence. I also have a feeling of simply wondering if I'm ready.
The other day, I brought our car in to the mechanic. It didn't feel like a major issue, it felt like something small that the mechanic could fix pretty quickly. A while after dropping the car off, the mechanic called and told me I was facing a very large and costly repair. After getting a second opinion and receiving the same diagnosis, I sat down and felt really disappointed for a few minutes. I knew it was out of my control, I knew God was going to provide for us - He already had, actually. I knew it was going to be okay, but I couldn't move past it until I let it sting for a little bit. So I let it sting.
It's okay to be sad about things, Baby Girl. It's okay to be frustrated when life gives you a dose of "bad". But just know that it is equally important to acknowledge that everything happens for a reason, embrace it, and then move past it. I think a large part of being happy in life is learning how to deal with "bad". In my observations, there are three types of people. Those made of rubber, glass, and elastic. Be elastic. If you're rubber, the bad simply bounces off of you without it really affecting you. This is problematic because if you never allow the bad to affect you, you will lack the ability to allow it to shape you. If you're glass, the bad shatters you on contact. This leaves you vulnerable. Being elastic allows the bad to take hold for a brief time. This allows you to see the bad for what it is, learn about it, learn from it, learn how to deal with it. Then as quickly as it came at you, throw it back to where it came from. The people who are truly happy in life are the ones who have figured out how to be elastic.
Another component of happiness is in managing your expectations. Pessimists expect the worst and optimists expect the best. I think you should always hope for the best, while preparing for the worst. This way if the worst happens, you are ready for it and you know how to handle it. But if the best happens, you have reason to celebrate. And don't forget to celebrate! Some of the best memories in life are formed when you are able to celebrate.
I love you Baby Girl,
Can't wait to meet you soon!
Your daddy.
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